Strength training was the thing that saved me. It was always so objective I never had to wonder what it meant. I was either getting better or I wasn’t. I was either putting in the work or I wasn’t. It’s still that way for me. For a while, the goal was chasing big numbers. Which never felt as bad as … Read More
Are You Letting Your Body Dictate How You Feel?
I remember the first time I wasn’t aware of my body. For years, it’s all I was aware of. I knew exactly how far my stomach was sticking out. I knew how big my arms looked if they were touching my sides. I knew how big my thighs were if I was sitting down. And I truly felt like everyone … Read More
Two Things To Avoid When You’re Trying To Find Food Freedom
Two things that are not helpful when trying to find food freedom: 1️⃣ More food education. You don’t need anyone telling you what’s in your food, how to read a food label, calories, grams of anything, or ingredients. 2️⃣ Anything rooted in fear. “Omg look how bad this is for you!” If the problem was really a lack of food … Read More
Waiting To Feel Skinny? Read This.
“I can’t wait to feel skinny so I can…” That was me- for more than half of my life. I couldn’t wait to lose weight and “feel skinny” so I could finally enjoy my life. Feel confident. Worthy. Enough. See the world. So everything wouldn’t feel so hard. So I could finally be happy. So, I waited. The story in … Read More
Candid Thoughts On Hating Your Body Until It Changes
Have you ever ended up with a car that wasn’t your dream car or one that you had for so long it started to rust, and just… got old? You realize your car works literally fine. And you realize there’s no way that you can get a new one… at least not for a while. So what do you do? … Read More
How Much Can You Tell About A Woman’s Health Based On Her Weight?
Let’s stop pretending that you can tell anything about a woman’s health just by looking at her. Let’s stop pretending that weight loss is some sort of inherent shoo-in to health. In fact, many women pursue weight loss DESPITE their health. Let’s also stop pretending that “health” isn’t some sort of social construct. That it is some hard and fast … Read More
Who Are You Taking Advice From?
Pay attention to who you’re taking advice from. Sure, maybe they LOOK how you want to “look,” but do they LIVE how you want to live? Do you want to have to scour every menu before you go out to eat to see if you’re “allowed” to eat there? Do you want to have to pack all of your own … Read More
Why I’m Not Freaking Out About Skipping Several Workouts Recently
I know you freak out when you skip your workouts. What if you don’t lose weight this week?! What if you don’t win the weight loss challenge?! What if you gain all your weight back?! What if you lose your momentum and never workout ever again?! What if you lose all your strength or muscle?! No. None of that. First, … Read More
Be Willing To Take Up Space
I want you to give yourself permission to take up space instead of shrink. This is exactly what lifting gave me. Commercial gyms were clogged with women there to shrink as I swerved around the sea of bros checking out their newest bicep vein in the mirror. I deserve to be here, too. I was there to grow. My character, … Read More
Take Failure as Feedback
Take each failure as feedback. If we take failure personally, we close off the opportunity to learn and grow from it. I fail all the time- and I use it as a springboard to assess where I could have done better, so that NEXT time, I can actually do better. I failed miserably at setting myself up for a restful … Read More