The health and fitness industry tells us that weight loss IS health, that dieting IS health, that marching to the scale every morning is just a normal part of it. Want to be part of the fitness crowd? The health and wellness crowd? GREAT. Now, just fall in line, count your calories, and weigh yourself often just make sure you’re doing it right. Right?
Sometimes putting weight loss on the back burner is one of the most HEALING things you can do for yourself. Healthy…healing… HEAL. Do you see the trend? THIS IS WHAT IS IMPORTANT.
There’s a whole host of stuff that goes wrong when we’re dieting all the time. Not to mention- who even knew that women had another option besides weight loss?
Well, I’m here to tell you- there are countless other options for you, your health, & your mental and emotional sanity. And there’s also a bit of a problem when you’re dieting all of the time.
Ever wonder what the effects of constantly dieting are?
Sure, in last week’s we talked about how restricting calories will inevitably lead to a binge- but outside of that, what else are the ramifications of chronically dieting? A WHOLE BUNCH!
We dive on into just the most surface level damaging effects of chronically dieting.
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For a long, long, long time- I called myself a weight loss coach. It was on every website, every tagline, and every business card that I had.
What a freakin’ disservice!
Being a weight loss coach is simple. Get women to eat less calories than they’re currently eating. BOOM. Magic. Even more magical would be calling it a cute name and tying it off with a bow.
Let me be clear that I am not anti-weight loss or anti-health. But tell women to stop focusing ONLY on weight loss? And they lose their damn minds. Tell women to let go of dieting forever? FORGET ABOUT IT.
Intuitive eating is gaining some popularity now. And people are either for it, or against it. If you’re against intuitive eating? You just don’t know what it entails yet. The women who are trying out intuitive eating and thinking it doesn’t work? Aren’t quite there yet.
Intuitive eating is quite literally engrained within us. We’ve been eating intuitively since the day we were born. The only reason we’ve lost the ability to eat intuitively is because of a fatphobic and diet-centric society that has taught us otherwise. Whether it’s our parents’ beliefs around food and weight, or our friends, or good ol’ social media.
It’s time to reconnect with yourself. This episode will shed some light on just a few of the misconceptions surrounding intuitive eating.
AND GUESS WHAT?!
I’m opening up a BRAND NEW small-group coaching group for 9 women who are sick of dieting all the damn time.
BEAT THE BINGE starts October 22nd and ends November 18.
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Registration ends Friday, October 19th unless spots fill before then.
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You know how the fitness industry has totally ruined exercise for most people?
Like, if you don’t want or will never have a 6-pack, what’s the point, right?
Or, if you’re sick and tired of only exercising when you’re trying to lose weight- what’s the point, right? Well, I hope this episode rekindles your love- or sparks the first ever fire under your butt to get you to exercise- specifically, strength training.
There are countless benefits to exercise that have NOTHING to do with weight loss. And honestly? Any weight loss that comes with working out is just the cherry on top
I was honored to have Rhonda on the show! She works as a Personal Trainer in a very unique setting- inside of a Physical Therapy clinic and has worked with some amazing stories to share with us all. Besides Rhonda being a truly incredible fitness professional and truly helping people change their lives, she’s also a dear friend of mine with a heart of gold. In this episode, Rhonda tells us stories that can remind us all of the resiliency of the human spirit and the human body. I hope you tune in and soak it all up! You can follow Rhonda on Facebook here and on Instagram here. Questions? email me- firstname.lastname@example.org
- 77: Putting Weight Loss On The Back Burner + The Detriment of Chronic Dieting
- 76: The Binge-Restrict Cycle; Weight Loss & Intuitive Eating
- 75: Exercising For Reasons Beyond Weight Loss
- 74: The Weight Loss Mind F*uck
- 73: Your Thoughts Control Your Reality- Tough Love for a Life Well Lived
- 72: How To Navigate Eating While On Vacation
- 71: Victim Mindset with Emily Gough
- 70: The Q&A Episode
- Why We Need To Stop Praising Women For Weight Loss
- 68: Lift Like A Girl with Nia Shanks
We’ve got a LOT to cover in this week’s episode, ladies! Make sure you tune in to get in on my latest social media “challenge”, designed to put an end to the weight loss mind fuck- it’s going to be GOOD! After that, I talk a bit about how what we post on social media matters. In this day and age, social media- how we consume it and how we use it, is just an extension of our own manifestations. What you post matters, and HOW you post matters- and this has NOTHING to do with running a business online. It has everything to do with what kind of environment you’re harnessing, and what kinds of things you’re attracting into your consciousness. Serious stuff, ladies. Whether we like it or not, social media is REAL. It plays a large part in our lives. This week’s episode will inspire you (hopefully!) to change the way you’re showing up. And I have a sneaking suspicion that it’ll change the way you feel on the day to day. Questions? email@example.com
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I used to approach vacation in one of two ways: 1) I would stuff my face for an entire week, waiting with baited breath to have to step on the scale once I was home and face the damage 2) I tiptoed around eating for the entire trip, nervous that I would undo all of my hard work. I counted points, calories, and stressed about whether or not I should have the local, homemade, seasonal cheesecake. Would it be worth the guilt and anxiety that it would cause? When you’re dieting, you’re either on or off the proverbial bandwagon. But when you’ve found a way to navigate the middle- you can literally eat the same way year round- whether you’re on vacation, whether it’s your birthday, or whatever. Life is so much better on this side of dieting. Questions? Send me an email email@example.com
I think most of us operate from victim mindset almost all of the time. There are different levels to it, and as I dive deeper into understanding how my victim mindset operates, I continue to learn how it holds many women back from living a life they can be truly obsessed about. Playing the victim card feels really good. People pity us, nothing is our fault, and there’s nothing we can do to change the situation. Playing the victim role allows us to point fingers at every thing and every one else. As good as being the victim might feel- it also keeps us stuck. Stepping out of the victim role and into responsibility is one of the biggest mindset shifts you can ever make in your life. Everything from your exercise, your nutrition, your body image, your job, and even your relationships- one of the biggest changes you can make is shifting your mindset out of this space. Emily and I dive deeper into what victim mindset is, how it’s holding us back, and what we can do about it. Questions? Shoot me an email! firstname.lastname@example.org
In this week’s episode, I answer: What’s the best way to go about finding a trainer to hire or what gym to go to? What’s the best protein powder you should buy? Or should you even worry about protein supplements? How can you enjoy cooking for yourself if you’ve never lived alone? What autoimmune diseases do I have and how do they affect me? Am I satisfied with where I am as a business owner and a coach? How do you know if you’re still participating in diet culture? Got a question for me that you want answered on the podcast? Shoot me an email! email@example.com
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We’re all guilty of it- and you’ve likely been on both the giving and receiving ends of this.
You lost weight, received a ton of compliments and extra attention about how great you look, what you’ve been doing to get there, praise about your determination and willpower, and maybe even comments that sounded like “I wish I was as dedicated as you are!”
Or, your friend or family member lost weight, you liked all of her social media posts about it,
told her she looked fabulous, (whether or not you were jealous about it is a completely different story) and commend her for all of her work, effort, and dedication.
So, what’s the problem?
Why is it that weight loss is the only thing women are praised about? No one is nearly as excited when a woman brags about her newest PR in the weight room. Hell, *most* people don’t even know what that is!
No one cares nearly as much if someone were to post about their improved fasting blood glucose levels.
No one cares nearly as much, if at all, if a woman repairs her relationship with food and is no longer anxious, guilty, or neurotic about her intake.
The problem is that no one asks these women how they did it.
Are they happy?
If the answer is yes, we now have another problem on our hands because…
Really? So you were unhappy before because you had 30 pounds to lose and now suddenly,
all of your life’s problems have vanished because you lost the weight? Is it really that simple?
Is losing weight really the happiest journey you’ll ever go on?
If so, you need a new life and a new definition of happiness immediately.
My question is this: what did you do to lose the weight?
Spent multiple hours each day on the treadmill?
Skipped out on birthday or anniversary dinners because #willpower?
Counted every calorie that went into your mouth for months on end?
Calculated how long you’d have to be at the gym to burn off that piece of birthday cake?
YEP! SOUNDS LIKE A SUPER HAPPY LIFE TO ME!
So while every “trainer” and gym across the country along with every
person with an Instagram or a Facebook account can continue to tell us stories
that losing weight is the only thing worth celebrating when it comes to our bodies, I am here to remind you
that you’re missing the entire point.
Each time you congratulate your friend for losing weight and say
“you look great!” you are replaying the narrative that before? She didn’t look great.
Before? She wasn’t worthy of any praise. Before? Not good.
While losing weight is fine, it should only happen as a natural byproduct of taking
care of yourself.
In case you’re so far gone into the diet-culture rabbit hole, taking care of yourself
includes but is not limited to:
-Moving in a way that you enjoy every day
-Exercising regularly in a way that you enjoy
-Getting quality sleep every night
-Proper stress management
-Doing things that you enjoy that have nothing to do with exercise
-Eating foods that bring you joy without worry, anxiety, guilt, sadness, punishment, or shame
-Eating foods your body thrives off of (thanks to diet culture, this idea has been completely ruined)
-A social life that suits your personal preferences and needs
-A solid self-care routine
-Practicing gratitude daily
The pursuit of weight loss alone is a sad, isolating, and a potentially damaging journey to go on.
Go ahead, start asking questions to those who have lost weight. Did they keep it off for good?
Were they happy? Are they happy now? Is putting so much merit and praise on weight loss
really the stories we want to keep alive? Or is there something more important about our bodies
other than constantly trying to shrink?
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This episode is so special to me. Back in 2013-ish, I almost threw in the towel. I didn’t want to feed into the big machine that is “this industry” but I felt so lost. Is there really room for women to talk about getting stronger? Is there really room for women to train women to quit the insane dieting protocols and learn to take up space in the weight room? A mentor of mine back then, Mark Crabtree, who has since passed away, turned me onto Nia Shanks. “You’re going to want to follow her.” The rest is history. Nia has been a lighthouse for me along my journey working in this industry so far. And I cannot wait to have you tune into this episode to talk about all things lifting heavy, eating well, and what it means to LIFT LIKE A GIRL. Questions? Shoot me an email: firstname.lastname@example.org