148: “You’re Not Fat – You’re Beautiful” and Other Unhelpful Advice

It usually goes like this:
“I’m so fat.”
“You are not fat.”
“Yes I am.”
“You are NOT fat! You’re beautiful!”

I hate this conversation- because it’s all so well-intentioned – yet still unhelpful for so many reasons. I heard it for years- as I hated my body more and more with each passing year, and agonized to my mother about how miserable I felt in my body, this was her advice.

But, we don’t know what we don’t know.

Have you been given this encouragement before? Have you given this as encouragement before?


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