I think we’ve been asking ourselves the wrong questions.
We waste an awful lot of time asking and wondering:
Do I look ok?
Does my hair look alright?
Am I wearing enough makeup? Or too much?
Does my body look ok? Does it tell the ‘right’ story?
Am I doing this right?
When really, I think, what we’ve been trying to ask along is:
Am I relevant?
Do I matter?
Does anyone see me?
Am I lovable?
I wonder if we start to ask a different question if we’ll finally be able to give ourselves a different answer.