“I can do it all by myself.” Sounds empowered and all until you realize you can’t. Take it from me, the girl who’s done it “all by herself”- I’d be so much farther along had I started asking for help sooner.
First, I did it with my fitness. And why wouldn’t I?! I have a degree and all- right? Wrong. Great players need great coaches. My fitness didn’t really take off until I hired a coach. I could get out of my own head, become a student instead of a teacher, and be taken care of instead of doing the caring for once. This was huge!
Then, I did it with my business. My business didn’t start making sense until I hired a business coach. Accountability and mentorship was exactly what I needed to get out of my own way.
Then, I did it every which way in my personal life. My kitchen sink broke and I swore up and down for days I could fix it myself. I washed dishes in my bathtub for almost an entire week before I swallowed my pride and asked my dad to come fix it- he fixed it in 20 minutes 🤦🏽♀️ how much easier would that week have been had I just asked for help sooner?
How much progress could I have made in the gym had I asked for help sooner?
How much farther along would my mini-world domination be had I sought out mentorship sooner?
For me, it’s an ego thing. It’s the admitting that I need help that’s hard. It’s the shame of not feeling like I’m good enough on my own- it’s the feelings of failure that I need someone to help me. Shouldn’t I be good enough to do this all by myself?! The answer is a hot no.
I’ve always gone pretty far on my own- but always much farther when asking for help. “If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together.” -African Proverb
Don’t let your ego get in the way of how far you can go. You’ll never know if you keep trying to go it alone. 🦋